Step one in the discovery was that my life was not ruled by feelings. It was, and still is, ruled by choices.

Feelings come upon you as a boomer. That you may not be able to stop. However the impact on your relationship of your negative feelings towards your spouse can be controlled.

You control what goes on in your head. You control whether you hold a negative thought for 1 minute, 1 hour , 1 day, 1 week or a boomer lifetime. Yes, your control is that far reaching.
You do not control what goes on in your life partner's head.

Think about that. Only the territory standing in your shoes can reasonably be expected to respond to your control.
Embrace that and it will change your relationship forever.

Step two was I had stop thinking that the boomer relationship restoration process was going to begin the moment my wife started making some changes in her attitude, thoughts and conversation towards me.

You can benefit from this discovery by being the first to make changes. You can choose to change your thoughts and the words you use in conversation with your partner
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You would have grasped, by now , the idea is that you make changes first. And your loved one will follow. Even when you're not expecting them to. It just takes a decision to change on your part.

And here's the amazing part.

Your relationship restoration begins not when you've made the first kind boomer remark.

It begins the moment you made a decision to make changes in your life. As a seasoned boomer relationship restoration expert I have watched this process many times.

And it never fails.

Step three was to be transformed by the renewing of my mind so that I didn't immediately start playing the "blame game" whenever something went wrong.
Now you've entered your boomer years you can't continue to play the game the way your father did in the days of your youth.

You have to accept responsibility for the failure events that come your way as a once happily married person.

Your relationship will continue to grow as long as you maintain a life ruled by choices, and directed by your willingness to make changes in your life when challenges in the partnership arise, as well as being driven by your desire to accept responsibility when things go wrong in your life.

You can prove the Surprising New Discovery on Relationship Restoration as a baby boomer by centering your relationship on quality choices, a me first to change attitude and taking ownership of errors.

May you too find new meaning in the phrase wedded bliss

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